Conscious connection….consent

During this stormy winter month, I have been pondering aliveness and eros. Not a new theme for me, yet in the uncomfortable place of change or upheaval, I move towards cultivation of aliveness.
When aliveness involves connection with others, a central aspect of conscious connection is consent. Today I have two great resources on consent that I want to share.
I am thrilled to pass on the announcement that Betty Martin’s work with consent is expanded into a School of Consent. A team of trainers is now available to teach and offer—to individuals, groups, professionals, and businesses—the ‘Wheel of Consent’ and a consent curriculum. The website has gifts, downloads, and introductory teachings about consent.
A more local resource I know of is the Consent Academy, started in 2016. This website is packed full of interesting articles and insights on building a consent culture. I appreciated the variety of voices available.


“How do you want me to touch you?” An Interview with Betty Martin — Pleasure Lab season 2 episode 4

Show notes:
Pleasure Lab Episode 3 of season 3 includes an interview between Betty Martin and Zed Meade.
Betty Martin’s work can be found at, along with lots of information about the Wheel of Consent.
Books and inspiration mentioned in this episode are:
Full Spectrum Sex by Isa Magdalena, and more of her work on
Science for Sexual Happiness: A Guide to Reclaiming Erotic Pleasure by Caffyn Jesse
Sexual Intelligence: What We Really Want From Sex and How To Get It by Marty Kline
Our lovely intro and outro is “She Sees Mice” by Little Dog Big Ears, borrowed under a Creative Commons licensed music